Life Lesson Lunes

Growing up is hard to do. You have to do all kinds of things that you don't want to do. You have to pick up your dirty clothes, come in the house when the sun is shining, brush your teeth, comb your hair, make your bed and you start to realize that life isn't fair. I've learned that teaching my girls, especially Maggie right now, that "being the bigger person" is always a good decision even though it is hard, makes your tummy hurt and seems unfair. Well, it is unfair but it's part of growing up and being a good human being. Maggie's had a really hard time with this lately. She is my child through and through and therefore "combat" and "confrontation" flow through her veins like oxygen. That is why I understand what she is going through. It's hard for her to get the "if she follows you and you know that she's trying to fight or be mean, walk away from her without saying a word" concept. Nope. My daughter wants to say exactly what is on her mind and find any and every mean thing to do and say back. Not because she wants to be mean but because her feelings are going to be hurt and she wants to make sure that the other person feels just as bad. So, my lesson to my daughter's today is this. Sometimes we have to do things because they make our hearts feel good. Often times the same things are not reciprocated but those are not our decisions. There is nothing that we can do about that so worrying about it and feeling bad is only bringing you down - not the other person. So, stop feeling bad. Rub some dirt on it and keep making decisions that make your heart feel good. You will always know that you are the bigger person that way and you will always get further ahead. My grandma always said "Those that Give Love, Gather Love." Remember that. It's a valuable lesson.